tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post4632853263880855460..comments2024-02-20T07:57:47.756-08:00Comments on Carol Hedges: Calm down dear, it's only Twitter-rageCarol Hedgeshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comBlogger58125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-13938151594511109222012-11-15T12:00:12.684-08:002012-11-15T12:00:12.684-08:00I handle twitter by being extra nice and curbing m...I handle twitter by being extra nice and curbing my natural urge to be sarky and a smart alec. I find this way I don't get into any squabbles - I am even thinking of carrying this technique over into my real life. But then again - nah.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-32070506352680750222012-11-15T04:55:29.513-08:002012-11-15T04:55:29.513-08:00Quite! Never argue on Twitter - NO I DON'T!!!Quite! Never argue on Twitter - NO I DON'T!!! Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-20862282957879039842012-11-15T04:54:32.097-08:002012-11-15T04:54:32.097-08:00Remember, about half of them are me replying, thou...Remember, about half of them are me replying, though!Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-36218507542409437172012-11-14T15:45:41.699-08:002012-11-14T15:45:41.699-08:00Wow!!! Fifty three comments, Carol! That is someth...Wow!!! Fifty three comments, Carol! That is something! I don't think I've ever had so many. Well done for giving us a thought provoking and stimulating post!Vallypeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08309284606572565277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-80211386662671168202012-11-13T09:04:55.732-08:002012-11-13T09:04:55.732-08:00It's funny (or not so funny) how people can ge...It's funny (or not so funny) how people can get on these social sites like Twitter. It does happen often. We each read a comment or something someone has posted and the way it reads in our heads can be very different to what the person means. People can take unnecessary offence or if they disagree with your opinion can get defensive and stupid out it. I've noticed this on forums that I have been joined to at one time or another. It's stupid really because places like Twitter should a place to socialise and enjoy yourself and make new connections. Interesting post, sorry to hear you had a spat people can take things to serious it's good to have a discussion and have differing opinions, that's what makes it interesting.<br /><br />:)<br /><br />KateKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02352923647954339788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-77437177677161356152012-11-13T00:54:57.398-08:002012-11-13T00:54:57.398-08:00Thanks Autumn. I think that's probably a wise ...Thanks Autumn. I think that's probably a wise policy. As you sy, unpleasant people don't usually build up a lot of followers - tho sadly, they can cause damage even so.Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-83064007788754355282012-11-12T12:43:10.633-08:002012-11-12T12:43:10.633-08:00Twitter is, or should be, fun. 140 characters make...Twitter is, or should be, fun. 140 characters makes it difficult to have a discussion of any depth (though I recently had a multi-national discussion on Sharia Law that was fascinating!), so I find it better for light topics. It is a good way to virtually 'meet' people in real time, which is nice. I find that the authors I really enjoy use their Twitter accounts to make me laugh a good deal of the time, though a thought-provoking statement isn't out of the question.<br /><br />As far as unfollowing... I'm of two minds. Anyone truly unpleasant doesn't often get a follow in the first place. I have had to unfollow one person who insisted on taking offense at the most general statements at random times. There is little hope of reconciling with someone with such a mindset, so I reluctantly unfollowed after months of patience. Generally it just plays into their scenario in which you are the unreasonable person, and I am far too contrary about playing into anyone's preconceived notion to be comfortable with that. :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-85608736766932767582012-11-12T06:43:38.113-08:002012-11-12T06:43:38.113-08:00How unpleasant. Seriously. - I'm always baffle...How unpleasant. Seriously. - I'm always baffled by people who are this unpleasant - and this is certainly a prime example. There is so much crap in the universe - better to try to amuse or encourage rather than destroy. Though in your case, I may make an exception.....Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-81108297500663005772012-11-12T06:41:16.157-08:002012-11-12T06:41:16.157-08:00IU've only been on Twitter since Aug, and 140c...IU've only been on Twitter since Aug, and 140chs is limiting - tho a good discipline. I think you gradually build up an impression of the people you can be 'opinionated' safely with. Others, I also qualify with a # or somethingCarol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-77414608862693666422012-11-12T06:02:20.444-08:002012-11-12T06:02:20.444-08:00Carol, I know you'll be worried because I have...Carol, I know you'll be worried because I haven't written anything on this blog post for a few hours. (!!!!) Agree so much about the problem being that you can't see facial expressions so much - same with texts. I'd also like to applaud Maria, above, for naming the person who was arsey with her! Hurrah!!! Name and shame !!! (Or perhaps not, or some people who don't laugh when I tell them off for spamming might name and shame ME!). <br /><br />Just wanted to add something ELSE to this - when I was quite new to Twitter and dead green, not knowing about these troll types who just want to get you into arguments, I was accused by this stupid bint called Kerry P Smith (I think) for faking my reviews. I was very polite about it, and bothered to justify myself (I hasten to add, for the record, that none of my reviews are fake, that everyone who has reviewed my books have read and enjoyed them, and I find people who do fake reviews or buy them totally pathetic). I didn't, however, rise to the fight, and eventually she gave up. Unable to get me going, she resorted to writing a review on Amazon, slagging me off and saying that my reviews were as she'd said. Amazon removed it. I looked at her review persona - on her wish list were many books entitled 'how to write a best seller' and stuff like that. Oh, the temptation to have a go at her on Twitter.... I kept a discreet and professional silence, though!!! Terry Tylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15077413235902203848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-74738812848439583882012-11-12T04:31:16.821-08:002012-11-12T04:31:16.821-08:00I joined twitter in the hope of learning how to ge...I joined twitter in the hope of learning how to get my point across in 140 characters or less & have discovered that even after several months I am making slow progress. I don't know why lol is so frowned upon because I find it indispensable. I am rarely serious and ironically I do laugh out loud a lot it maybe its a snort! Ha! Lol! Anyway, it has helped to keep sometimes ambiguous comments from being taken seriously. I have tweeted and not added it & can see how it might be misinterpreted as a holder of an arid sense of humour. I don't unfollow people easily, benefit of the doubt, but I am tempted sometimes when something is said that I find offensive. I may mentally add a lol and it doesn't seem so bad. Wow! I can't understand why I have issues with being limited to 140 characters, do you? Lol :pkate nhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18343201276177843047noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-90564869871215639622012-11-12T04:09:56.635-08:002012-11-12T04:09:56.635-08:00But it is - coz fo what you stated. I was analysin...But it is - coz fo what you stated. I was analysing a chat I had recently with my best friend - we were being very 'sarky' with each other - but smiling, helping ourselves to biscuits etc. Facial expressions say so much. Twitter does not (yet) give us the opportunity to see the smiles, winks, and 'tongue in cheek' stuff!Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-5422070347544432182012-11-12T04:08:10.615-08:002012-11-12T04:08:10.615-08:00haha. Brave person! I'm always aware, as I sta...haha. Brave person! I'm always aware, as I stated, that I do want people to look into my books, so mustn't be too much of a grouch! That said, I hope I wouldn't stand by if someone was 'bullying'.Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-455978276625229682012-11-12T04:06:37.956-08:002012-11-12T04:06:37.956-08:00Is anyone feeding the fish? And help yourself to b...Is anyone feeding the fish? And help yourself to biscuits!Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-81751638822703689822012-11-12T04:06:04.399-08:002012-11-12T04:06:04.399-08:00This is one way, and you are not alone - see Kell...This is one way, and you are not alone - see Kelly Hashway. But I think one misses out on the rough and tumble of a good discussion ( with selected people, of course, like me who won't let it get personal).Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-25815728604953258102012-11-12T04:04:48.343-08:002012-11-12T04:04:48.343-08:00It is a problem! I think we need to agree to disag...It is a problem! I think we need to agree to disagree without getting personal. Maybe some people are insecure, and feel threatened by alternative views. Have to say, apart from certain individuals, I err on the light banter!!Carol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-5174925129231745702012-11-12T03:05:50.257-08:002012-11-12T03:05:50.257-08:00I avoid all this by hardly ever having deep virtua...I avoid all this by hardly ever having deep virtual conversations. And definitely not talking to anyone who looks as if they might be a ranty, right-wing fundamentalist. Impossible not to get irritated sometimes, though. Always best to walk away and count to ten before hitting the send/tweet button. gxGilli Allanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13234069151918319605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-55458758419151071322012-11-12T03:05:22.442-08:002012-11-12T03:05:22.442-08:00Why treat anyone differently on Twitter than you w...Why treat anyone differently on Twitter than you would if meeting them face to face? By applying simple & respecting each others POV, we can all use Twitter for pleasant chats & lively, well-reasoned debate.<br />Great blog!Jacy Breanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356348634443502708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-48739445168518820812012-11-12T03:00:14.692-08:002012-11-12T03:00:14.692-08:00Carol, I got involved in something similar to Mand...Carol, I got involved in something similar to Mandy K James, and was shocked when I got verbally attacked by a well established author, and writing tutor.<br /><br />I haven't unfollowed her, but we don't talk on twitter anymore. It was 'her way, or no way', and two other writers involved did unfollow her, but personally I hate spats. Life is too short. I am however, very careful with my words now.<br /><br />I love Twitter, previously I'd heard bad things about Facebook for this sort of thing, but never on Twitter. Judging from your comments though, it appears to be a bigger issue than I thought...<br /><br /><br />Mariahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05322234219197041788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-7295047844160646802012-11-12T02:58:18.483-08:002012-11-12T02:58:18.483-08:00Interesting blog, Carol. Why should dealing with p...Interesting blog, Carol. Why should dealing with people on Twitter be any different to meeting them face to face? If we all remember our manners, respect each other's point of view - no matter how much we disagree with it - & make it a rule never to make personal attacks, then Twitter can be an excellent tool for reasoned debate. After all, life would be boring if we all agreed on everything!<br />Jacy Breanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15356348634443502708noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-85313539136696549022012-11-12T00:55:08.714-08:002012-11-12T00:55:08.714-08:00I have that all the time. I'm rarely serious a...I have that all the time. I'm rarely serious and people don't realise I'm just a dotty old mickey taker :)Carol E Wyerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12375439814725846546noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-57033347116760808562012-11-11T10:19:53.406-08:002012-11-11T10:19:53.406-08:00First time I've read your blog Carol. It's...First time I've read your blog Carol. It's very interesting. I seldom have disagreements on Twitter. Maybe I'm too bland, maybe my followers are. I did have occasion once to take on a Twitter bully who took delight in coaxing others to 'discuss' usually silly topics, and then berated them unmercifully if they disagreed with him. I'm very happy to report that by the time we finished, he unfollowed me. One of my happier experiences on Twitter.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-84370691391955883392012-11-11T10:18:13.588-08:002012-11-11T10:18:13.588-08:00Brilliant! "as small Demons clog danced in my...Brilliant! "as small Demons clog danced in my head..." just love it!Vallypeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08309284606572565277noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-43788387065992189392012-11-11T10:01:43.591-08:002012-11-11T10:01:43.591-08:00You know what, given that as you get older, you ge...You know what, given that as you get older, you get mouthier (see me) by the time you're my age, you're going to be the sort of person mother's warn their kids about.<br />Mother: Eat your cabbage, or Terry Tyler will GET you!<br />Kid: (screams) NooooooooooooCarol Hedgeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10359578624109905400noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2681775564258628407.post-22094186084724946032012-11-11T09:40:31.046-08:002012-11-11T09:40:31.046-08:00....having said that, last night I got one of thos.......having said that, last night I got one of those spam messages that people who don't know about Twitter etiquette send - some bird had sent to all her 900 followers "Thank you for following. Could you please read and review my story, and perhaps vote for it, too?" I didn't know her from Adam. I replied. "Would you like me to edit, proofread and illustrate it for you, as well? And maybe lend you 50 quid? This is a Twitter follow, not a relationship." She wasn't very pleased, and went to great length to tell me how bitchy and venomous I was, and that everyone else had done so. Yeah right, je pense!!!<br /><br />Usually I ignore, or just point out, politely, that this sort of message is widely considered to be spam and probably not a good idea - usually that's fine!!! I was tired last night...!!Terry Tylerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15077413235902203848noreply@blogger.com